Monday, March 4, 2013

Etiquette: Wedding Party Cuts and Keeps

We've all been there... waiting on pins and needles after a friend gets engaged to hear the much anticipated question, "Will you be my bridesmaid?"

In today's bridezilla filled, recession trodden, manners missing world - there are a lot of feelings hurt and lines crossed when making the wedding party cuts. 

Don't fret sweet bride! We are here to help you along the way so that your wedding party will be a little less drama and a lot more love! We've lined up a few guidelines to follow in choosing your best babes. 

1. First things first, you can't cut family. You just can't. I don't care if you have 103 sisters, you now have 103+ bridesmaids. Also, if you are asking your groom to put your brothers in the wedding, you better expect to make room for his sister you never talk to. Just talk about it for crying out loud! Family is around forever and friends come and go, so if you want to keep anyone happy... you catch my drift. 

2. Determine a number you both think is appropriate and try to stick to it. To have mismatching sides is SO not a big deal unless it is obvious and sad. Don't ask your entire sorority when your guy only has two bffs he's known for years. 

3. If you have to split a group of friends into a smaller one to accommodate your number, don't go all high and mighty on everyone. The last thing anyone wants to hear is "It's my wedding so I can do what I want!" However true that may be, even the lucky ones that made the cut don't want to hear it. BE GRACIOUS. Gently tell the ones that might be offended by your decisions in private, and perhaps ask them to be a part of the wedding in another way. There are PLENTY of details to take care of that will make others feel inside the loop and a part of everything. 

Overall, when deciding who you want to hold your dress up while you pee, talk you back out of a momentary cold feet spat, or sip mimosas while getting your hair done - make sure it is the friends that really matter. A wedding party can make or break your big day. If you choose right, they'll make sure it is the best day of your life. But if you choose poorly they could spend the whole night in the parking lot with the keg they brought. :)

It's gettin' personal over here!!
One of my favorite photos - my mom snapped this of my bestie and I on her wedding day right before they made their grand exit. Obvs she was a bridesmaid in my wedding too :) 

Hope you all enjoy the wedding party wonderfulness this week! Stay tuned for more wedding etiquette posts :) 

XOXO, Abby

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